There is a new trend that is developing and which is really getting noticed. That particular gender difference which men have been encouraging for years now, are now calling it the “smothering” effect. Yes that’s right, this is the latest development in mate selection psychology and it has been given a name by researchers. Here are the latest findings. According to the perspective of these experts, previous to the current personality trait, men were still flocking around what should have been their eventual soul mate. They were still awed by the woman’s different ways and different world view.

But this cognition appears to have been removed from most of these men in the recent years

And what’s doubly disturbing is that, the very men who were so earlier so into seeing themselves as great men, are now exhibiting signs of remorse and fear of intimacy. They are showing signs of hearing condition, classmates are saying this guy is really quite crazy, there are some social slights that made him fear being in a relationship. Now the ultimate question, is whether the mentality of these men, which has been charming and self-confident previously, will revert to the “old you” or will the “real” them begin to come out in the recent years.

What is quite sad is that they continue to live, date, and sleeps with these females but never truly find, or settle for, a mature and fine-looking woman. Basically they are still missing that emotional connection in their relationships. They are still trapped in the fairy tale world of Maud overs and Willful Mondays.What the psychology experts are indicating, is that this current rise in seductiveness is an emerge from a belief that many men have about themselves.

That belief is that there will not be enough women to go around, and the best you can do is discover that there is a plethora of wonderful women out there.

And therefore, what you have to do is to narrow down your selection to the best of the best. It’s just a case of narrowing it down to a styled taste and style, and acknowledging that you won’t possibly be able to have that kind of girl. And that’s what’s happening with the so-called “Smothering Phenomenon.” People are finding it tougher and tougher to meet the right person because there are so many fantastic women out there. And it’s further compounded by the increased seductiveness that according to these experts, has become a growing trend.

Look at the profiles of some of these seemingly normal looking guys and know who they are. Haven’t you heard them mention before that they seek a wife who is blonde, shapely, hand-eye wearing, and that they want children in the family some day? What a revelation that only a few years ago those qualities were considered to be the domain of the total loser. The witty, well-groomed guy who wears a suit and never leaves the house without his iPod Touch is suddenly the alpha male.

If you consider that some of the “Survivor” corners of the internet have obsessively fantasy theme sites created to show how each person’s unique past try to grab life in the tiny spaces left. It’s amazing that we are searching for our soul-mate in the real world. I wonder what happened to the concept of Finding. That Special Person who is all that. Perhaps the idea offering Along happily married life to that delicious honeymoon seems like another fantasy lost as the population ages, and as we relinquish more and more decision making to our spouses, our expectations, and the like, our specializes diminishes.